How to Check Your Blind Spots for REAL CHANGE


There’s a BIG mismatch between how you think you’re viewed by others and how they actually see you. In fact, you really have no idea how you come across to others.

“What matters about you, to someone else, is whatever has the most meaning for them – not for you,” according to Oliver Burkeman in How to Influence the Way People See You.

So what can you do about this?

As mentioned in 4 Sure-Fire Ways To GET Valuable Feedback, it’s essential that the feedback you get is valuable – especially feedback about your “Blind Spots”.

Blind Spots = Things about yourself known to others, but not to you (top right box below):


Johari Window


As tackled in the article, this information can be hard to come by – especially from your team and direct reports.

However, for you to grow and develop, i.e. make real CHANGE, it is crucial that you have access to them…



To fix the mismatch, here are 3 small but key steps you can take right now:

Step 1. Understand It:

Use the simple and highly effective Johari Window Model to help you learn about yourself and come to terms with your critical issues.

Step 2. Seek It Out:

Recognize the mismatch between the perceiver and the perceived (you) and seek out valuable feedback.

Step 3. Take It:

Once you’ve asked for it, you’ve got to be willing and able to take it. If you react negatively you’ll destroy the trust with the giver and your chance of ever receiving it again.

TIP: Give your collaborators permission to give you open & honest feedback. In fact, for the best solutions you want others to question your ideas (see How to Get People to Disagree with Your Ideas).



In summary, here are 4 BIG reasons to check your Blind Spots:

  1. Honest opinions are highly valuable because they help you see what you can’t see yourself. For this very reason, you need to get past your discomfort of it.
  2. When you’re able to check your Blind Spots you’ll be open to other possibilities that were hidden before.
  3. Feedback is just someone’s opinion, not a fact. However, if there’s any truth in it you want to know about it.
  4. As we know from The Beatles, the amount you get is equal to the amount you give (see How To GIVE Valuable Feedback.)


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